Problem Solving

Whenever we get a problem,for most of us the problem becomes a part of my psyche and that is the biggest problem.Slowly as I develop some really thick skin in the IT industry I begin to understand that a problem(may it be a bug/life/someone else's problem) is a seperate entity to be tackled and once we dissociate ourself from the problem it becomes easier to solve.

I usually follow this method when I get a problem I used to move away from myself and observe me from a third person's perspective treating me as an object faced with another object called problem.In this way I am able to take an unbiased view and yes dissociate myself from it.This removes anxiety and personal bias especially when it comes to life problems.

Every problem has a life cycle,the start where the actual problem is pose here it is as big as an unknown godzilla(God's illa->You feel even God is not there to help)
then is the understanding phase where we actually know the problem,then comes understanding the cause and then root cause and finally when the problems root cause is undertstood its almost solved that is when you get the smile on the face(I knew it look)

Some people are better problem solvers that is because they have perfected the art of solving it.I believe it is in the process that the key lies.Each person has got some "best practices" when it comes to problem solving and it will be good if all of you people reading this can put in yours as comments so that i will compile all this and perhaps release it as a book!!!

The Chewing Gum analogy

"Success and Failure are both two great imposters" is a very famous quote....
Life is to live no doubt but the attitude we take towards life is more important.
In Life there is no permanent joy similarly there is no permanent sorry.

Life will be more easy to handle if we consider each instance of life as a chewing gum....where in we chew the gum till the juice remains.Every moment of life is a learning experience.We must take only the happiness/good out of the instance and enjoy it to the fullest.we should at the same time imbibe what it has to give.We should however remain unaffected(thats difficult of course).

Most of us are either guilty of swallowing it or letting the remnants "stick on"
We tend to forget that the chewing gum was/is/will never be part of us.Most of us are guilty of either resting on laurels or moaning on sorrow....

So if we consider life like this and disallow any instant to affect us....life will be an interesting game where we look forward to more challenges and put both success and failure behind us....

So lets move ahead lets make life more chewie....

EverNew Joy

I have always been pondering over the fact that for most of us God is a matter of convenience that is only when we are stuck or are in trouble do we seek God...so if we are happy then there is no need of God at all?!!

I read an excellent book - "The Science of Relegion" -Sri Paramahamsa Yogananda

This was an eye-opener to me.If God is not part of our daily life then there is no need for God.So what is God?What is Relegion?

He says that

"whatever we do the ultimate objective is to remove pain or gain pleasure.This quest of mankind is to acheive permanent bliss i.e a state which is supreme pleasure without an iota of pain.However even sleep is such a state.So the state has to be one of which we are aware.Death is permanent sleep and none of us like to die.So God is this state of Immortal Bliss with complete awareness.That is called Sat-Chit-Ananda This quest towards acheiving that state is called Relegion."

So whatever we do is towards fulfilling that ultimate objective.So we can say all scientists,atheletes,people working in any sphere are all highly religious.
So we can say that there are no atheists in this world and very few really relegious.

The real objective of all Relegions is also the same.Only thing is we have missed the forest for the trees!!!

So God is in every respect omniscient,Omnipresent and Omnipotent cause we are all at every moment engaged in reaching that state.Now I understand Tat Tvam Asi meaning YOU ARE THAT!!!

So what we do is in search for happiness then why not be happy this instance itself.
Then I guess every part of Life becomes a celebration,every work a worship and every acheivement an offering.

Unheard words

I wonder how many people does a man/woman meet in his/her life....well guess there are generally the following categories....people who we
I)just meet say Hi ....Then Bye
ii)meet,talk about the weather may be general politics get to know each others name's and yes Bye
iii) ii)+ meet sometime down the line and slowly build acquaintaince
iv)iii) plus an email(usually forwards) once in a while on topics of general interest
v)slowly some acquaintances continue to keep in touch.....
vi)some of v) get into a closer loop
vii)finely filtered and they are friends

Then after the 7 doors(strange 7 hills of Shabarimala,7 doors of Vaikundam....hmmm some celestial significance....)are real core friends atleast thats how it is for me.......

But then at each level I find there are people who have made indelible lasting impressions.I have wondered why they never came through the next door!!!Well I guess most people did shut the door on me...ha ha ha ...I did not have to do it...

Seriously analyzing I find I did want a few of them who made these subtle impressions to come to my core group....iam interested in the around 50% of these who shut the door on me....kya hua yahaaan?????

I guess people who left me at <=level 4 or 5 never got to know much about me...
so that leaves say around 25% who did get in but got out....why why why?
probably level 5 they understood that they I don't share their interests....fine so may be they found me a bore...since we did not have common interests...ok so that leaves say around 5-10% who did get close to me but then opted out.....

It is this 5-10% say a liltle down level 6-7 that Iam baffled....they did know me but then closed the door....so therein lies the question why?

Ego conflicts?Difference of opinion?Fed up of me? hmmmm......no idea cause they never told me the reason....I guess those who came out of level 7 were those who
had differences but sorted it out with me.....perhaps if the others too had done the same I would have been better than what Iam.

Anyway all said and done...i do wonder why some left with unsaid words which echo somewhere within the closed doors of their hearts....leaving behind them a deafening silence......

May be just a minute or two...perhaps a slap would have made that fine difference
and may be they would have been one among my best people...but then Life is Like that
Man Proposes.....God and yes people too dispose............!!!!!!!

Life is Like This!!!!

I am on solid earth...rock solid that is...got some time now...anyway i will satrt blogging regularly from now on...I was just wondering I used to consider life as a what it is...
In school....well go to school,come back home,do homework,get marks.........
In college...a little more serious....get some recognition...only way get marks since I did not have any other "assets" to my credit...still life was fine since everybody was fine with it....there was pressure when I found ok now I have to get placed thru campus and WIPRO was end of the road for me...i got it...of course i had to slog a lot still that was well fine...the came the University rank....fine....then was the thought of PhD....felt emptiness there...then a little pressure but still I knew i will get into WIPRO and then i joined everything as fine..

Now when I am working i feel endammmooooo work pressure...deadlines is fine no problems..there are teething issues...but then now I have to think what next???
And I have to decide that like a MAN.....

Career...what do i settle for?this itself or should i find someother company or should i go for higher studies??
Life...now I guess I am a pillar in my family for I see that they are a little more comfortable....so what do I do....swaroop shuold get stabilised...2nd year next year for him..I hope he gets serious....hmmm...perhaps after that i will agin go for higher studies???!!!!
Finally marriage...when..how what...I don't want to lend a thought...it makes me scary...I find it difficult to manage myself even.....

The BIG difference I feel between college and work now is that now whatever I do there is so much at stake....responsibility...some times I feel I should not have grown up...but then there is a feeling of having reached a stage where u are happy that u are able to contribute....of having become a MAN....

So life is like this...I used to wonder what people meant by saying "Life is not an easy joke"....correction.....
This is Life...nothing is easy and certainly no jokes......
Now I understand what God meant when he said Man will have to earn his daily bread and toil....(when he cursed Adam and Eve)
Atleast I won't have 'EVE's' pain..ha ha ha thank God I am a MAN!!!

But still I believe Life--->Enjoy Maaaadi!!!!!!!!...Find enjoyment in whatever u do....I don't have a choice here ..ha ha ha