Blowin' In The Wind (Bob Dylan)
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How many roads must a man walk down
Before you call him a man?
Yes, 'n' how many seas must a white dove sail
Before she sleeps in the sand?
Yes, 'n' how many times must the cannon balls fly
Before they're forever banned?
The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind,
The answer is blowin' in the wind.
How many years can a mountain exist
Before it's washed to the sea?
Yes, 'n' how many years can some people exist
Before they're allowed to be free?
Yes, 'n' how many times can a man turn his head,
Pretending he just doesn't see?
The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind,
The answer is blowin' in the wind.
How many times must a man look up
Before he can see the sky?
Yes, 'n' how many ears must one man have
Before he can hear people cry?
Yes, 'n' how many deaths will it take till he knows
That too many people have died?
The answer, my friend, is blowin' in the wind,
The answer is blowin' in the wind.
The above song is a famous piece from Bob Dylan.
It talks about walking the path and what it takes to be unshakable.
A true master piece.
Penned down some of my thoughts about this below:
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Life is not devoid of disappointments and every disappointment leaves scars.
But it is these scars which turn into stripes and the final question is:
"Have you earned your stripes?"
It is only when the heart tears that it grows stronger.
No matter what happens, truth,tenacity, perseverance,endurance and courage is what we need with us to move forward in life. But there are also times in life when we need to just let go and move on as well. Do your best...leave the rest.
We are mere travellers.Everything in life is a learning experience.
So when we fall, when we fail,when we are dissapointed:
we need to stand up, wipe away the dust,clean up the wounds=>allow it to heal,
ignore the scars,imbibe the lessons,grow stronger and move on...
Apply the lessons learnt make sure that mistakes are not repeated
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Friday, November 21, 2008
Doctor Who Books
Doctor Who books were perhaps the only story books available in our school library. When there were other people of our age reading Hardy boys and Nancy drew, we were reading Doctor Who books. In class VI I used to wonder what kind of crap the book would contain and the mere look of those books used to put me off.
It was a kind of idle curiosty that made me pick up a book called Doctor Who and the Cave Monsters- my first Doctor Who book. That was in class VII. I then found that it was about time travel across the space-time vortex. And that was the beginning of the race again time :) Others in my class also got hooked on. We were a set of 5 people and every week it was a book a day. We each used to borrow a book and finish one the same day and exchange it amongst us. We aimed to complete 4-5 a week.
We literally ate,slept,talked and walked Doctor Who through VII,VIII,IX and XI and yes we were not allowed to borrow books in X and XII for obvious reasons. There is a set of 72 Doctor Who books and we used to write down in our school diary whichever book we read. My count was 65 to be precise. And then we left school and I have scourged book shops and the internet in vain for the books.
A fortnight back I went into an old book shop in T.Nagar Pondy Bazar. And wonder of wonders there were a set of Doctor Who books lined up. I rubbed my hands in glee as if they were a meal fit for a monarch. I asked the book shop owner and he said Rs.50 a piece. There were 25 books in all. I told him that I would take all if he gave me a deal. Little did I know that this guy had graduated from Harvard Business school. He said "No way....you know nobody has bought this book for the past 20 yrs". I told him "Well rest assured nobody will buy it for another 40 years if I don't buy it now and walked out with a pain in my heart". He then called out to me and gave me a deal Rs.30 per book. I thought Rs.20 would be fine but then my greed for the book overrode the money and I bought the entire set of 25 books. And yes I read a book a day with the same old relish. I wish I could buy all the 72 and my quest will be to make a collection. Well atlast I have a definite aim in life :-) !!!
Doctor Who????
============For those who survived till this line and are curious about the book and would like to know more. Doctor Who is a an exiled Time Lord from the planet Gallifrey. He roams the universe in a space ship which is called TARDIS(Time and Relativistic Dimensions in Space). It looks like a police box though it is designed to adapt to the surroundings. His favorite plabet is Earth. His space ship is defective and will seldom land where he wants to. And so he wanders through space and time and fights the bad guys. The Doctor is a scientist and thats why he is called Doctor and since people don't know his name they ask Doctor Who? The Doctor has the capability to regenerate and so has different avatars :) (see the photo listing 10 faces...its all Doctor Who.
Doctor Who->Dasavatharam :)
Below are a set of links:
Friday, September 05, 2008
Chennai Ennai poda Vennai Endradhu
Chennai....I landed in Chennai(by bus) from coimbatore to take up my next venture.I had already contacted some brokers to find a house for rent and all of them had assured me "Sir just come von or two days in advancu onnum prechanaey ille we can easily get you a house/flat/PG" and the rent they said seemed to be nominal and I thought ok so its just me going there and I get a place in a jiffy. But some gut feeling(which has never failed me) made me go 4 days in advance which included a weekend.
I had already called up a close family friend of ours(whom I address as uncle) and he asked me to come down and stay with him till I found a house. I was greeted by the exorbidant chennai auto fare(and I thought well if Coimbatore is like that then Chennai ought to be more expensive). I said to myself "sappa matter..don't worry once you figure out the place everything will be fine". Uncle and family were hospitality personified and I had a great day because it was Varalakshmi pooja and I also sang some songs(thanks to their patience :-)
And then it began....uncle said he will accompany me to the place since I was to meet the broker and I did not know anything about chennai. I knew some places thanks to google maps and I was proud of being the tech savvy guy who had figured out the places,advertised in sulekha and managed everything through the internet. I called up the broker and he said one PG twin ,fully furnished,with AC,fridege and all is available...and just 5 minutes from your company....man very impressive.Now all I have to do is go see the place pay the advance and then shift. So simble you know...Then I reached the place...after travelling for an hour and a half the broker took us by bike along a dusty road and his "justu five minutes" had already exceeded 1o minutes by bike.I thought ok walking for 10-15 minutes will be a good exercise. We reached a house and then we went upstairs. There was no fridge,no AC. He said sir they will fit it soon....and then he showed me the room. It was about 18*10 and there were 2 cots already. And he said sire you can put your cot there. I asked "what about the other two?" Well sir there are 2 people occupying this room and you have to share with them and there is a common bathroom there. I asked him the rent and he said Rs.5000 per head.
Oh my God this is the limit. I walked out of the place. I called up all the other "contact numbers" I had and all of them replied"already occupied".We decided to get back home and I had this feeling that this was not going to be easy at all. We reached home at night cause we had started late afternoon and the places is quite far off. Then I rummaged through the internet. Found as many numbers as possible. Then we also rummaged the news papers next morning. I had already made 20 calls the previous day and I had around 30 numbers with me today. I called up each number and the response was one of the below:
"Sorry sire aalready aacupied"
"Sire this house is new very big and it is far caarporate use and then rent is Rs.30000"
"vokay family aar bachelor...voh bacheloraaa we don't give to bachelors sire"
(I certainly did not want to get married to get a house...and though it did sound the easiest way out)
And in all I had just 2-3 numbers which said they have a house. I went again and scouted the whole day.The first 2 were absolute waste and then on the way we got one more person who said we could see a house the next day. Uncle had also spoken to his relatives in that area. We then visited all the places...most areas were not good and the houses were worse. And the rent charged was nothing less than Rs.5000....I was willing to pay that but none of the houses semmed worth it.I had one option of moving in with a person in a 1 BHK. I called him up but then lady fortune deserted me there when he told me that he decided to take in his buddy. Hmmm so much for the promise he gave that he would keep it open till sunday evening. Then we finally reached the last number.
Finally it was a flat,rent was around Rs.10000 but I could find roommates. And the house was good and the locality was ok.Only thing is I had to walk for about 25 min each day to the place where my company bus would come.That would mean a walk to nearly 1 hr a day. But then I thought thats the best to do considering the situation. And finally on monday I shifted. I have not included some more funny experiences with some really weird people since this has already become very lenghthy.
Then came the ordeal of finding a roommate. First I advertised in the internet and I was sort of becoming a house broker expert...calling people and showing them the house and explaining this and that 2 BHK bath attached and so on and so forth. Finally a colleague of mine was looking for a roommate to take a house and I told him I have a house and I am looking for a "house mate " and he liked the house. Finally he moved in. I had thus scouted almost a large chunk of chennai to find a house. I thank the internet and our family friend uncle (who accompanied me everytwhere and helped me a lot)with all my heart..cause without them I would have never found one.
Among my experiences the real disappointment was when the brokers turned out to be turncourts. Overall coming from Bangalore where there was an air of sophistication, here I was disappointed by the way they interacted with you. But I guess may be thats because I did not have to interact with that many brokers/house owners to get a house in Bangalore.I had found one in just half a day.I like Bangalore better cause yes the weather is too good. The infrastructure is much better. I do hear that the sub urban trains are a boon to chennai but you need to get used to it to like it. And above all people TRUST BACHELORS.
So my overall first impression considering that I melted like butter under the sweltering heat of disappointments was "Chennai enney poda vennai endradhu"-thats a famous dialogue by comedian vivek in a movie. And yes he is right. But then my workplace is good and my current bread(sorry idli)is here and perhaps I will learn to like it :-)
I had already called up a close family friend of ours(whom I address as uncle) and he asked me to come down and stay with him till I found a house. I was greeted by the exorbidant chennai auto fare(and I thought well if Coimbatore is like that then Chennai ought to be more expensive). I said to myself "sappa matter..don't worry once you figure out the place everything will be fine". Uncle and family were hospitality personified and I had a great day because it was Varalakshmi pooja and I also sang some songs(thanks to their patience :-)
And then it began....uncle said he will accompany me to the place since I was to meet the broker and I did not know anything about chennai. I knew some places thanks to google maps and I was proud of being the tech savvy guy who had figured out the places,advertised in sulekha and managed everything through the internet. I called up the broker and he said one PG twin ,fully furnished,with AC,fridege and all is available...and just 5 minutes from your company....man very impressive.Now all I have to do is go see the place pay the advance and then shift. So simble you know...Then I reached the place...after travelling for an hour and a half the broker took us by bike along a dusty road and his "justu five minutes" had already exceeded 1o minutes by bike.I thought ok walking for 10-15 minutes will be a good exercise. We reached a house and then we went upstairs. There was no fridge,no AC. He said sir they will fit it soon....and then he showed me the room. It was about 18*10 and there were 2 cots already. And he said sire you can put your cot there. I asked "what about the other two?" Well sir there are 2 people occupying this room and you have to share with them and there is a common bathroom there. I asked him the rent and he said Rs.5000 per head.
Oh my God this is the limit. I walked out of the place. I called up all the other "contact numbers" I had and all of them replied"already occupied".We decided to get back home and I had this feeling that this was not going to be easy at all. We reached home at night cause we had started late afternoon and the places is quite far off. Then I rummaged through the internet. Found as many numbers as possible. Then we also rummaged the news papers next morning. I had already made 20 calls the previous day and I had around 30 numbers with me today. I called up each number and the response was one of the below:
"Sorry sire aalready aacupied"
"Sire this house is new very big and it is far caarporate use and then rent is Rs.30000"
"vokay family aar bachelor...voh bacheloraaa we don't give to bachelors sire"
(I certainly did not want to get married to get a house...and though it did sound the easiest way out)
And in all I had just 2-3 numbers which said they have a house. I went again and scouted the whole day.The first 2 were absolute waste and then on the way we got one more person who said we could see a house the next day. Uncle had also spoken to his relatives in that area. We then visited all the places...most areas were not good and the houses were worse. And the rent charged was nothing less than Rs.5000....I was willing to pay that but none of the houses semmed worth it.I had one option of moving in with a person in a 1 BHK. I called him up but then lady fortune deserted me there when he told me that he decided to take in his buddy. Hmmm so much for the promise he gave that he would keep it open till sunday evening. Then we finally reached the last number.
Finally it was a flat,rent was around Rs.10000 but I could find roommates. And the house was good and the locality was ok.Only thing is I had to walk for about 25 min each day to the place where my company bus would come.That would mean a walk to nearly 1 hr a day. But then I thought thats the best to do considering the situation. And finally on monday I shifted. I have not included some more funny experiences with some really weird people since this has already become very lenghthy.
Then came the ordeal of finding a roommate. First I advertised in the internet and I was sort of becoming a house broker expert...calling people and showing them the house and explaining this and that 2 BHK bath attached and so on and so forth. Finally a colleague of mine was looking for a roommate to take a house and I told him I have a house and I am looking for a "house mate " and he liked the house. Finally he moved in. I had thus scouted almost a large chunk of chennai to find a house. I thank the internet and our family friend uncle (who accompanied me everytwhere and helped me a lot)with all my heart..cause without them I would have never found one.
Among my experiences the real disappointment was when the brokers turned out to be turncourts. Overall coming from Bangalore where there was an air of sophistication, here I was disappointed by the way they interacted with you. But I guess may be thats because I did not have to interact with that many brokers/house owners to get a house in Bangalore.I had found one in just half a day.I like Bangalore better cause yes the weather is too good. The infrastructure is much better. I do hear that the sub urban trains are a boon to chennai but you need to get used to it to like it. And above all people TRUST BACHELORS.
So my overall first impression considering that I melted like butter under the sweltering heat of disappointments was "Chennai enney poda vennai endradhu"-thats a famous dialogue by comedian vivek in a movie. And yes he is right. But then my workplace is good and my current bread(sorry idli)is here and perhaps I will learn to like it :-)
Monday, December 10, 2007
My First Flight
I had never thought traveling by flight could be a great experience, probably I was biased by the fact that I had not traveled by flight at all. That is why I never gave it a thought, in fact I used to say to myself-"well it’s a great technology, but sheer waste of money. I was the only person in my family who had never boarded an aircraft. I had gone home on Nov first week and my mom said next time why don't you fly down to Coimbatore. You are the only one who has not traveled by flight. I told mom-"Verudhe endhina paisa kalayande(Why waste money) besides if I am destined to fly I will".
Nov 15th evening my PM called me and said there is an urgent implementation to be finished and I was to travel to Kochi. I quickly called up "Friends travels Madivala and said Chetta Cochin lekku oru seat urgent aaytu venam-adhey A/c bus thanne".Then my PM said forget the tickets, apply for domestic travel and said the tickets could be collected from K2 (Koramangala Wipro office). On reaching K2 office, I was handed a nice little envelope and inside it was the to and fro FLIGHT ticket by King Fisher Airways. Mind blowing I could not believe I was going to fly the next day morning.
Bangalore Airport 5:30AM my aunt dropped me @the airport. I went inside,did not have a clue as to what to do and thanks to another PM who was also a close friend of mine I managed to reach the plane without problems. I went in not able to make sense of which was my seat number and thanks to the air hostess, I finally managed to find my seat and like most times there was no one sitting next to me!!!Memories of TV shots of Twin tower and other catastrophes came racing, enthusiasm took over fear....5,4,3,2,1 and lift off I was air borne and yep I never once unfastened my seat belt throughout the journey as if that is going to protect me if something happended!!!
Bangalore looked like a gray city with silver nitrate spilled carelessly all over. Then came the sun rise....The sun appeared on the horizon, a pink color and then slow and steady He arose in full glory. A rotating gold ring shimmering and standing out, captured my attention. It was a clear day and there were no clouds and the sun started blinding everything else from my view. So I turned to the breakfast served...did full justice to it though I knew from my historic trips to ooty and shabarimala that I vomit at the slightest twist in the hairpin bend. The plane did swerve at some dizzying angles to the left and I shifted my attention to the newspaper. And then lo the landscape changed to an endearing green-God's own country and why not? The picturesque landscape reminded me of brocolli.It was as if the entire region was filled with broccoli cultivation amidst clear silver streams. Then came the landing....I felt as if I was in a race bike which was in mid air and Then suddenly gravity pulls it down. The tires came down and then I did feel relieved that I was back on earth. It was an experience which brought back my childlike enthusiasm and I felt very happy.
December 3 there I was at Nedumbasheri airport after 2 weeks of back breaking work. Now that I knew the process of boarding and checkin, I was pleasantly surprised that I had not noted one of the "other beautiful aspects of Kingfisher”. Vijay mallya says,” The crew is personally selected by me" and why not...the King of good times certainly has an excellent eye for beauty, especially when he chose the customer coordinator at the airport!!! Though I had to wait for half an hour before boarding, I never felt bored!!! I then boarded the flight and I did notice ;-) the airhostess this time. The flight took off again and I did not want to waste time on the mundane attractions of life. I tilted my head towards the window. I could see Bharatha puzha-well I think it was or some other river whatever it is was flowing right through the landscape flanked by lush green "broccoli". It was a cloudy day and it was a wondrous trip. I would say this was much better than the onward journey. I was flying above the clouds. The clouds were like loads and loads of cotton thrown over the mountains. I remembered the serials like Om Namah Shivaya, Mahabharath etc...where in the Kailas and Palaazhi, the abodes of Shiva and Vishnu are filled with clouds and man I did feel like a God. Then came the sun mercilessly blocking my view, but this time the clouds effectively shielded him and it was wondrous to see the cotton clouds turn into shining silver. The landscape shifted to boxes of organized buildings at first and then into utter chaotic boxes.....yes we reached Bangalore.... the flight will land shortly came the announcement. Then the same landing I kept hoping that the wheels don't bounce off.
It was an exciting and exhilarating trip to be cherished forever ad moreover the best part of all of it was that it was sponsored by the company!!!The best things in life do come free sometimes when you least expect it!!! No idea whether I will get such journeys again but I am not looking forward to it cause it is best when it comes unexpected.
"Bhagwan ki Jai Wipro ki Jai!!! "
Saturday, September 08, 2007
Miracles for recognition?
http://www.voanews.com/english/2007-09-07-voa53.cfm
In the above link the article says there is a need for one more case of miracle healing in order for Mother Theresa to be declared a saint.Why do people want "miracles" to declare a person as a saint? Mother Theresa has lived her entire life for humanity and that makes her equal to God.Why should someone do something which is super human in order to get the status of God or Saint?The problem is we believe that God cannot be human and He/She should be someone who is of angelic countenance and does super human things.Why this sort of a mind block?
There are people amidst us who dedicate their entire life selflessly for humanity.Most often we recognize them when they are dead and gone.Mother Theresa deserved to be called a saint when she was living itself.Why wait for someone to be dead and gone or await a case of miracle healing to declare the person as a saint?
Religion is a tool for aiding Humanity and not viceversa.Most of today's problems are because we have used religion as a tool for war.Religions sprang up to guide humanity towards good.If there is no humanity then there is no religion.
Mother Theresa is such a great human being where in she is helping the poor and needy even after she has left her mortal body through her institution.Her entire life is thus a miracle if that is what people are searching for.To selflesslesly love another human is a miracle in itself.It is the same reason why I adore Mata Amritanandamayi cause I have witnessed with my own eyes how she consoles and helps people sometimes for 24+ hours a stretch for days together.Miracle or no miracle such people are worthy of worship.
God cannot be someone sitting in an antiseptic corner of the universe.God must be the most human of humans.We keep waiting for the heavens to open up and rain down angelic beings to come down and help us.We even forget our friends and relatives who wish good for us.What happens is that in the process we forget the ordinary mortals amidst our midst who do extraordinary things without expecting anything in return.We must start recognizing them this moment because we are all mortal.Once we start to recognize and start to emulate them then the entire humanity will be redeemed.
In the above link the article says there is a need for one more case of miracle healing in order for Mother Theresa to be declared a saint.Why do people want "miracles" to declare a person as a saint? Mother Theresa has lived her entire life for humanity and that makes her equal to God.Why should someone do something which is super human in order to get the status of God or Saint?The problem is we believe that God cannot be human and He/She should be someone who is of angelic countenance and does super human things.Why this sort of a mind block?
There are people amidst us who dedicate their entire life selflessly for humanity.Most often we recognize them when they are dead and gone.Mother Theresa deserved to be called a saint when she was living itself.Why wait for someone to be dead and gone or await a case of miracle healing to declare the person as a saint?
Religion is a tool for aiding Humanity and not viceversa.Most of today's problems are because we have used religion as a tool for war.Religions sprang up to guide humanity towards good.If there is no humanity then there is no religion.
Mother Theresa is such a great human being where in she is helping the poor and needy even after she has left her mortal body through her institution.Her entire life is thus a miracle if that is what people are searching for.To selflesslesly love another human is a miracle in itself.It is the same reason why I adore Mata Amritanandamayi cause I have witnessed with my own eyes how she consoles and helps people sometimes for 24+ hours a stretch for days together.Miracle or no miracle such people are worthy of worship.
God cannot be someone sitting in an antiseptic corner of the universe.God must be the most human of humans.We keep waiting for the heavens to open up and rain down angelic beings to come down and help us.We even forget our friends and relatives who wish good for us.What happens is that in the process we forget the ordinary mortals amidst our midst who do extraordinary things without expecting anything in return.We must start recognizing them this moment because we are all mortal.Once we start to recognize and start to emulate them then the entire humanity will be redeemed.
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Managing Defeat
In my article "The Chewing Gum analogy" I had written about equianimity and the attitude of a chewing gum.And like everything in life it is always like things are easier said than done.How to stay equianimous and face defeat?Well until I faced a real defeat in life I could not write about it.
So here comes how do we actually manage defeat?
For that we will see what is defeat actually?
Defeat comes in different forms=>polymorphisms!!!
i)There are instances in life where you get defeated no matter how hard you try.For example a friend of mine got excellent marks in the XII entrance but still he could not succeed in getting an MBBS seat because those seats were reserved.With tears of blood he watched people with lesser marks getting admission.But this is also a form of defeat cause you feel dissapointed cause you did not get it though you deserved it.
In this instance we can say it is dissapointing and frustrating but then the attitude towards it can be like this: I did my best and still I did not get it so it means there is something much better awaiting me.We must move forward with the attitude that OK I did not get an opportunity to climb the Kanchenjunga cause I am climber who can conquer the everest.God always reserves the best for the last.So we can move forward with patience,awaiting and working toward a better tommorrow
ii)Then next comes defeat which you just cannot reason out why
(I am assuming the male gender this is equally applicable for the other sex also)
An amusing example can be that of a guy who gave all his heart for a girl and she chooses somebody else.Let us assume that this guy is of fine character,good breeding and balanced.
But still she did not choose him.Why?Well nature works in strange ways.The girl chooses that guy for reasons which only she knows.Even God cannot mess with free will.So what should be the attitude of this guy?Just because team India lost inspite of Sachin scoring a century does not mean that Sachin is not the best batsman.It is difficult to accept but life has to move forward.There is no use brooding over and breaking your head about what went wrong cause you will not be able to understand no matter how hard you try.
Heard melodies are sweet but those unheard are sweeter.Just like case i)God must have decided hey this guy is just too good for this girl.She will not be able to manage such a guy.I have designed a more compatible person for him.And yes lets not be unjust to the girl cause she got the best one she can manage and is compatible.A Toyota cannot run if it is fitted with a ferrari engine and vice versa.This does not mean Toyota or Ferrari is a bad car.Each is a class apart and serves its own purpose.So he must decide Ok I am a ferrari and let me race forward in life cause I am born to race and win a grand prix and not like the toyota->ride smoothly and put children to sleep!!!
iii)Real Defeat due to lack of planning,purpose and preparation.This is the most serious of the three but easiest to handle cause yes we are the culprits. Here we should have the attitude of a real postmortem.We must unforgivingly and impartially analyse why we went wrong.We must learn from others,adopt effective study and problem solving techniques.A sense of application and purpose is a must.
Above all no defeat/problem in life is worth losing ones sleep. We must have an attitude of surender to God and a deep sense of acceptance.Only inner change can only help cause we cannot just change the surroundings.
One Chewing gum is over whether it is success or failure.
We must move on in this glorious journey called life looking forward to better,happier,exciting and wonderous journeys ahead.
We deserve the best!!!
So here comes how do we actually manage defeat?
For that we will see what is defeat actually?
Defeat comes in different forms=>polymorphisms!!!
i)There are instances in life where you get defeated no matter how hard you try.For example a friend of mine got excellent marks in the XII entrance but still he could not succeed in getting an MBBS seat because those seats were reserved.With tears of blood he watched people with lesser marks getting admission.But this is also a form of defeat cause you feel dissapointed cause you did not get it though you deserved it.
In this instance we can say it is dissapointing and frustrating but then the attitude towards it can be like this: I did my best and still I did not get it so it means there is something much better awaiting me.We must move forward with the attitude that OK I did not get an opportunity to climb the Kanchenjunga cause I am climber who can conquer the everest.God always reserves the best for the last.So we can move forward with patience,awaiting and working toward a better tommorrow
ii)Then next comes defeat which you just cannot reason out why
(I am assuming the male gender this is equally applicable for the other sex also)
An amusing example can be that of a guy who gave all his heart for a girl and she chooses somebody else.Let us assume that this guy is of fine character,good breeding and balanced.
But still she did not choose him.Why?Well nature works in strange ways.The girl chooses that guy for reasons which only she knows.Even God cannot mess with free will.So what should be the attitude of this guy?Just because team India lost inspite of Sachin scoring a century does not mean that Sachin is not the best batsman.It is difficult to accept but life has to move forward.There is no use brooding over and breaking your head about what went wrong cause you will not be able to understand no matter how hard you try.
Heard melodies are sweet but those unheard are sweeter.Just like case i)God must have decided hey this guy is just too good for this girl.She will not be able to manage such a guy.I have designed a more compatible person for him.And yes lets not be unjust to the girl cause she got the best one she can manage and is compatible.A Toyota cannot run if it is fitted with a ferrari engine and vice versa.This does not mean Toyota or Ferrari is a bad car.Each is a class apart and serves its own purpose.So he must decide Ok I am a ferrari and let me race forward in life cause I am born to race and win a grand prix and not like the toyota->ride smoothly and put children to sleep!!!
iii)Real Defeat due to lack of planning,purpose and preparation.This is the most serious of the three but easiest to handle cause yes we are the culprits. Here we should have the attitude of a real postmortem.We must unforgivingly and impartially analyse why we went wrong.We must learn from others,adopt effective study and problem solving techniques.A sense of application and purpose is a must.
Above all no defeat/problem in life is worth losing ones sleep. We must have an attitude of surender to God and a deep sense of acceptance.Only inner change can only help cause we cannot just change the surroundings.
One Chewing gum is over whether it is success or failure.
We must move on in this glorious journey called life looking forward to better,happier,exciting and wonderous journeys ahead.
We deserve the best!!!
Friday, November 03, 2006
Problem Solving
Whenever we get a problem,for most of us the problem becomes a part of my psyche and that is the biggest problem.Slowly as I develop some really thick skin in the IT industry I begin to understand that a problem(may it be a bug/life/someone else's problem) is a seperate entity to be tackled and once we dissociate ourself from the problem it becomes easier to solve.
I usually follow this method when I get a problem I used to move away from myself and observe me from a third person's perspective treating me as an object faced with another object called problem.In this way I am able to take an unbiased view and yes dissociate myself from it.This removes anxiety and personal bias especially when it comes to life problems.
Every problem has a life cycle,the start where the actual problem is pose here it is as big as an unknown godzilla(God's illa->You feel even God is not there to help)
then is the understanding phase where we actually know the problem,then comes understanding the cause and then root cause and finally when the problems root cause is undertstood its almost solved that is when you get the smile on the face(I knew it look)
Some people are better problem solvers that is because they have perfected the art of solving it.I believe it is in the process that the key lies.Each person has got some "best practices" when it comes to problem solving and it will be good if all of you people reading this can put in yours as comments so that i will compile all this and perhaps release it as a book!!!
I usually follow this method when I get a problem I used to move away from myself and observe me from a third person's perspective treating me as an object faced with another object called problem.In this way I am able to take an unbiased view and yes dissociate myself from it.This removes anxiety and personal bias especially when it comes to life problems.
Every problem has a life cycle,the start where the actual problem is pose here it is as big as an unknown godzilla(God's illa->You feel even God is not there to help)
then is the understanding phase where we actually know the problem,then comes understanding the cause and then root cause and finally when the problems root cause is undertstood its almost solved that is when you get the smile on the face(I knew it look)
Some people are better problem solvers that is because they have perfected the art of solving it.I believe it is in the process that the key lies.Each person has got some "best practices" when it comes to problem solving and it will be good if all of you people reading this can put in yours as comments so that i will compile all this and perhaps release it as a book!!!
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