Thursday, May 12, 2011

Marriage - the HUMDINGER??? !!!!

I don't know when I heard this word "HUMDINGER".
I think it has been there in my head for as long as I know :)
The Brittanica defines it as below
Definition of HUMDINGER : a striking or extraordinary person or thing
Example of HUMDINGER: The last storm was a real humdinger!

And yes there has been no event so far in my life to use the word "HUMDINGER".
Though I would say I have been fortunate to be associated with a lot of remarkable people.

The events of the past one month can probably be grouped into one as "HUMDINGER" particularly because so much has happened in so short a time.

A month back I was this bachelor looking back and wondering if I have been right all along with my decisions, my acquaintances, my friends and as a person. And also looking forward at life wondering if marriage was the next logical or illogical step in my life; and if so will I ever meet such a person who would consider me worthy enough and was willing to take that risk with me :) I had decided sometime back that I am going to leave the process of finding a girl for me to my parents . I was kind of convinced that there are not many girls who think/feel I was worth the risk and say "yes" to me!!!

My parents had given me the phone number of this person and I was contemplating if and when should I make that call. Then I thought its best to let this person decide and I heard she was teaching and I did not want to interfere in her classes. So I sent her an sms asking for a time when I could chat. And I spoke to her for about an hour or so and I started getting the impression that this person seemed to be more intelligent than me. Now any guy reading this would know how intimidating this is. I did not nurture any hopes that this person would actually want to meet me in person. And I was surprised that she did ask me as to when I am coming home to meet her and she had also added "with family". That was on 30th March.

After some consultations and "mutually" convenient time discussions my parents decided to come down to Bangalore on April 3rd a sunday and go to her house on April 4th which happened to be festival of Ugadhi - the new year - a "HUMDINGER" of hope :)

I met her on April 4th and after the meet I was convinced that I was completely fine with her and I was wondering if she felt the same...may be I did know that she would...and that added more anxiety and to have some peace of mind I decided to be pessimistic.
I told my parents "I am fine with her but never know what they will say....".
I went back home and had a good "troubled" sleep :) much to the annoyance of my parents.
Her parents had said "We leave the decision to our daughter and we will get back to you by evening".

And then that evening her dad called up my dad. I was right next to him and all I could see was my dad saying hmmm....hahh...ok...fine....and I was like ok so that means a thumbs down. May be my dad kept a deliberate poker face to add that extra bit...and after the conversation he turned to me and said "they are ok". I have never felt my pulse run so fast, my heart was beating close to bursting point and I was choking almost as if I had an attack of asthma.
Finally a girl had decided to say "yes" to me.

The elders then met and decided that the engagement is going to be on April 24th and marriage on May 18th considering our horoscopes :) Oops I never expected that my marriage just like other things in life would be amidst tight deadlines and short notices.I never took the engagement seriously and I don't know what people thought when I was keeping a great sense of humor and literally held her trembling fingers when I put the engagement ring.

It has been just about 2 weeks now. And next week is my marriage I wonder if I can use the word "HUMDINGER" to define or describe the event.
The best thing about the word "HUMDINGER" is that it can refer to a person and an event.
I think time will eventually decide if my wife thinks I am the "HUMDINGER" of her life
and whether the marriage itself has been "The HUMDINGER" for her !!!

But for now I am going to assume like all "wise" husbands to be :) that my wife is definitely the "HUMDINGER" and marriage is going to be "The HUMDINGER of the best things"in my life !!!


Hema said...

Well written. Appreciate your writing ability.

How true it is the elders saying that "every RAMAN has got a SEETHA". It has come true in your case.

Regards and best wishes


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Beauvalet said...

machans! The best thing about this one, is that it has shed all hints of a distant but definitive melancholic solitude in them...reads better than any of your previous posts.. beats the best crafted of all your poems, and most importantly bears the live insignia of the person in whose admiration it was written. I cant be more happy. well, Niti speaks about your lovely lady every day!

The Visitor said...

:) Your marital life - a humdinger, it shall be...
All the best Karthik.

Purne Shiva said...

Toooo Gud !! Keep smiling and be happy and together always !!